The man said,“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”Genesis 2:23 — The New International Version (NIV)
Holding the above Scriptures into account, what then is responsible for Couples being divided on matters so much that there’s a complete breakdown of Relationship?
Marital conflicts can be defined as the state of tension or stress between marital partners as the couple try to carry out their marital roles.
If each one places the happiness of the other over his or her own happiness, then there won’t be issues in Marriage.
6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.”Mark 10:6–9 — The New International Version (NIV)
We may not want to accept this Truth, but we however cannot escape from the fact that our Selfishness is responsible for marital issues. If a Man considers the interests of his wife above his, and the wife also considers the interests of her husband above hers, then it’s almost impossible for unresolvable problems to arise in their marriage, that is, if the face of God was sought before the Marriage.
As Christians, care for spouse also includes praying for your spouse and your marriage generally. Our Altar of Prayer must never be cold in Marriage. It’s also worth mentioning that you don’t wait until Marriage to see your partner as topmost priority in all matters, as you cannot show capacity in Marriage that you never built up during dating period.
As I know Bishop David Oyedepo to often say, “You Don’t Prepare In Marriage, You Prepare For Marriage, Just As You Don’t Learn To Shoot On The Battlefield But Before The Battle.”
We must learn and accept very early that Marriage can be Fun, but is also a place of Consistent Sacrifices. We must keep the wheel oiled at all times, and as I would love to repeat, this beautiful journey starts during Dating period and continues until the last one of the Couple goes to be with the Lord. Even if you didn’t get it right during your Dating period or even years into your marriage, you can always still enjoy the rest of your marriage if only you begin to align with God’s word concerning Marriage.
In concluding, the success of Marriage is predicated on the below words of Christ when asked which is the Greatest Commandment to which he responded LOVE:
“And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”Matthew 22:39 ESV
One’s closest Neighbour is his wife or her husband. So apart from loving God, you as a matter of command, must love your spouse. Love isn’t a Feeling that comes and goes. Love is Commitment.